A Real Fairy Tale Ending

After my separation last year and impending divorce, I can’t help but think that I will probably be staying well away from men for a very long time.

Once bitten, twice shy…….or in my case, twice bitten.

Like any little girl when I was growing up, I listened to my parents read me fairy tales. 

Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty, Rapunzel……the whole purpose of these women’s lives was to wait around for a handsome prince to rescue them, so they could get married and live happily ever after.


We were brainwashed with this nonsense from the day we were born.

I know I’ve been particularly unlucky in love but we all know that real life is nothing like a bloody fairy tale.

Sometimes we get confused between the villain and the prince and choose the wrong man.  Sometimes the people we love the most are also the ones that hurt us the most. 

Or maybe we spend our whole lives looking and never find him?

Some people are lucky enough to find their Prince Charming but even the seemingly idyllic lives we see on social media are rarely as perfect as they appear.

Whether you end up on your own, with Mr Right or Mr Wrong…… it shouldn’t ever stop you having a happily ever after.

We are the ones in charge of our own happy endings.

As I embark on single life again, it feels like it’s time to take ownership of my own fairy tale.

My leading lady is not sitting around waiting for Mr Right to rescue her.

She is going to be more of a Keira Knightly character in Pirates Of The Caribbean; brave, gutsy, nifty with a sword, who takes zero crap from men.

This lady is a proud, independent, single mum standing on her own two feet (in high heels, drinking prosecco listening to disco very loudly).

She has goals, ambitions and dreams and she’s dusting ’em off and shaking ’em down.  

She’s looking forward to working out who she is again, what makes her happy and having the time and emotional energy to pursue it.

She wants to travel and see the world and knows she’ll get there one day.

She’s looking forward to new adventures and many more years of precious motherhood.

She may not be rich but her life is rich in the ways that truly matter.

She is re-writing her story and this time….she’s making darn sure it’s a happy one!



  1. 26th November 2016 / 11:10 pm

    Brave, proud, independent, ambitious – much better labels than divorcee! Good luck on your journey. You sound like you have the right mindset. I love it 🙂

    • 30th November 2016 / 4:57 pm

      Aren’t they just Lucy! Thank you, I really enjoyed your post, it resonated with me. xx

  2. 2nd December 2016 / 12:21 pm

    I didn’t recognise the name of your post on #PoCoLo and I’m back again 🙂 I read this again anyway. Love your positivity. It made me smile (again!) #PoCoLo

    • 2nd December 2016 / 1:37 pm

      Hello again Lucy, we must stop meeting like this! Thank you! xx

  3. 4th December 2016 / 8:33 pm

    Yes! Absolutely! It’s not about waiting round for someone to make everything okay – WE can go out and make it fabulous! I wish you much luck on your new chapter and hope it all goes as smoothly as possible. #PoCoLo

    • 6th December 2016 / 9:12 am

      That’s exactly what I’m going to do 🙂 Aw thank you Lucy! xx

  4. 4th December 2016 / 8:43 pm

    I love the power in this post. May you be happy in life pursuing those dreams. #PoCoLo

  5. 8th December 2016 / 9:15 pm

    And I know you’re going to smash it. Wishing you all the very best – thanks for sharing with #PoCoLo X

    • 9th December 2016 / 8:08 am

      Thanks Steph!! You’re so sweet and supportive xx

  6. 9th December 2016 / 8:10 pm

    I love the message behind your post. It really is that easy to be side tracked by fairy tales and think that we should be waiting for prince charming. When actually, we have everything we need to go out and make ourselves happy. Thank you for sharing with the #DreamTeam and I have no doubt that your happy story is waiting to free itself. x

    • 12th December 2016 / 11:25 am

      Thanks Annette, we do have everything we need and I’m pretty focused on that now. xx

    • 12th December 2016 / 11:27 am

      Aw thank you lovely lady, I’m banking on it! xx

  7. 12th December 2016 / 8:17 pm

    I’ve read a few of your blog posts now and you seem to be in a much better place which is fantastic to read. You sound so much more upbeat and with this new positive attitude you’re going to totally rock being single and have the time of your life and after all you’ve been through, I reckon you deserve to.


    • 16th December 2016 / 2:03 pm

      AW what a lovely comment, thank you so much Janine xx

  8. 14th December 2016 / 8:00 pm

    Oh Hun I’m sorry you were hurt but it sounds like you’ve got a plan! I love that you’re making your own fairy tale ending. Thanks for linking to #pocolo

    • 16th December 2016 / 1:58 pm

      Yep, I’m looking forward to 2017 and turning my plan into a reality! xx

  9. mackenzieglanville
    17th December 2016 / 5:38 am

    I learned way too young that I needed to stand on my own feet and become strong and once I did then love found its way to me. When I finally met a ‘nice’ guy I let him know right from the start that I was strong and yet totally nuts and he would either accept me for who I was or bye bye, he stuck and I believe it works because we don’t need to change each other. I don’t have to compromise who I am and I think that is why we are so happy. So don’t give up on love, just love yourself first, put you and your son first and if someone comes along who can love that deal then give it a go. In the meantime have fun, travel and celebrate your awesomeness xx


    Happy Christmas beautiful xx

    • 1st January 2017 / 7:50 pm

      This made me a teary Mac. I know how happy you guys are so that’s great advice. Thanks lovely xx

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