After my separation last year and impending divorce, I can’t help but think that I will probably be staying well away from men for a very long time.
Once bitten, twice shy…….or in my case, twice bitten.
Like any little girl when I was growing up, I listened to my parents read me fairy tales.
Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty, Rapunzel……the whole purpose of these women’s lives was to wait around for a handsome prince to rescue them, so they could get married and live happily ever after.
We were brainwashed with this nonsense from the day we were born.
I know I’ve been particularly unlucky in love but we all know that real life is nothing like a bloody fairy tale.
Sometimes we get confused between the villain and the prince and choose the wrong man. Sometimes the people we love the most are also the ones that hurt us the most.
Or maybe we spend our whole lives looking and never find him?
Some people are lucky enough to find their Prince Charming but even the seemingly idyllic lives we see on social media are rarely as perfect as they appear.
Whether you end up on your own, with Mr Right or Mr Wrong…… it shouldn’t ever stop you having a happily ever after.
We are the ones in charge of our own happy endings.
As I embark on single life again, it feels like it’s time to take ownership of my own fairy tale.
My leading lady is not sitting around waiting for Mr Right to rescue her.
She is going to be more of a Keira Knightly character in Pirates Of The Caribbean; brave, gutsy, nifty with a sword, who takes zero crap from men.
This lady is a proud, independent, single mum standing on her own two feet (in high heels, drinking prosecco listening to disco very loudly).
She has goals, ambitions and dreams and she’s dusting ’em off and shaking ’em down.
She’s looking forward to working out who she is again, what makes her happy and having the time and emotional energy to pursue it.
She wants to travel and see the world and knows she’ll get there one day.
She’s looking forward to new adventures and many more years of precious motherhood.
She may not be rich but her life is rich in the ways that truly matter.
She is re-writing her story and this time….she’s making darn sure it’s a happy one!