I’m told that I was a real mummy’s girl when I was little. Mum says I used to follow her around and hide behind her skirt if any visitors came to the house.
My mum was a stay at home mum until I was a teenager. She was always there at sports days, school plays and every day when we got home from school.
I probably didn’t appreciate it at the time, but being able to come home after school every day to your mum, is a wonderful way to grow up. It was only when I became a mother myself and had to work part time, that I realised how lucky we were.
Mum and Me (Age 2)
My dad and grandpa had a pallet and wood business. They worked hard, long hours which meant they were up early and out of the house, before we woke up each day and home late each night.
Therefore, my mum and grandma have always played a huge part in our lives, meeting the daily demands of three children with laughter and love.
We lived next door to my grandma and grandpa when we were growing up so when we weren’t mithering mum, we could often be found sitting at grandma’s kitchen eating fried bread or asking for help to fix a bike puncture.
Grandma teaching me to roller skate (Age 4)
Growing up with the unconditional love and support of two such loving, kind and strong women, undoubtedly influenced the kind of mother I wanted to be.
When I became a mother at the age of 27, it was the happiest day of my life. I was already a step mum which I adored and when my son Seb finally came along, after a miscarriage, it felt like the most precious gift in the world.
I have tried to give Seb the same love, time and attention that was generously bestowed on me and my siblings when we were growing up.
I have always worked part time so I could take do the school run and I have never missed an assembly, sports day or a nativity play. I have taken time off in the holidays and gone camping with friends and family creating those precious memories I know we’ll both treasure forever.
I have lived my life with my son at the centre of it because that is what I learned from my mum and grandma. We have always felt loved and supported by them.
They taught me something else too; independence. As the men were busy working, my mum and grandma were the ones who ran day to day family life. They ferried us around to activities, late night waitressing jobs as we got older and took us away on caravan holidays.
Me (Age 15), Mum (Age 41) and My Sister (Age 17) Prestatyn
So when I became a single mum at 28, I was bewildered….but only for a while. Soon the experiences of my childhood reminded me that I’d be ok. My mum and grandma had run the show with hardly any money…just heaps of love and energy.
I knew I could do the same.
I am proud of the relationship I have with my son and its testament to the way I was raised. He knows I would move mountains and swim oceans for him, as I know my own mum would still do for me.
Being a mother is the greatest adventure I’ve ever had. Every year sees new challenges and experiences that will keep me smiling for the rest of my life.
Next week is Mother’s Day and it’s a great time to remember and appreciate the amazing mums and women in our lives.
When Matalan got in touch to let me know about their Mother’s Day gift range, I jumped at the chance to write about my experiences of motherhood.
With some lovely items from their clothing and accessory range, I have re-created a photograph of Seb and I from when he was 18 months old. I was already a single mum by then but just so thrilled to be sharing my life with my little boy.
Me (Age 29) and Seb (Aged 18 months)
I managed to find a gorgeous embroidered khaki shirt and some gold earrings which look very similar to my original outfit. I obviously look a lot older but it is 10 years ago! Seb is wearing a khaki t-shirt from the boys range and looks as handsome as ever.
I look back on my own childhood and the childhood I am sharing with my son and it makes me happy and proud. Motherhood can be tough, relentless and exhausting but it has always been my happy place and should be celebrated.
It’s the job I know I was born to do.
I found the perfect gift from the Matalan Mother’s Day range; a gorgeous large teacup saying ‘Mum’. It’s very apt for ‘Teacup Toria’ and every time I use it, I feel like I’m celebrating my role as a mother.
Happy Mother’s Day to all the amazing mums out there…..you are doing the most important job in the world.
Never ever doubt it….or yourselves.
(Disclaimer: This is a collaborative post with Matalan)